So many of us deal with impostor syndrome. From a very young age we’re all told that we’re either not good enough, or that we have to work 10x harder than others to get paid the same amount. When we finally get into a position of power or are given great opportunities years of often repressed feelings of inadequacy resurface. So it’s not shocking so many people have impostor syndrome.
What I’m going to tell you will not only help you overcome your impostor syndrome, but it will also vastly change the way you think about the opportunities you’ve earned.
What is it?
Impostor syndrome is when you feel inadequate in a role in your life, you feel as if the people around you are far more experienced and deserving of the role. Why? Well because you don’t have the skills, or haven’t worked hard enough, or aren’t pretty enough…right? Wrong. As someone who’s overcome a lot of impostor syndrome I can confirm that you are capable enough. You may feel like others have it all worked out, but they don’t. We’re all trying to figure out how to make life work for us!
You need to reflect on the situation you’re in and think about it logically. When you think you’re not deserving of where you are, just look at what you’ve achieved. Are you working as hard as or harder than everyone else? Are you more qualified than the other people? Do you bring more to the table? You need to take a step back from your fears for a moment and focus on all of the hard work that’s gotten you to where you are. Trust me when I say it will shock you to see just how much you’ve done.
Men are often in positions of power that, honestly they have no right to. For the most part that’s just the way the world works (for now). But
when men get into positions of power they’re not qualified for or have just been handed, they take those positions and make the most of them. That’s what you need to do. Don’t think you deserve the opportunity? great! How are you going to use this position to better yourself and improve your skills. What can you learn from this opportunity?
Think tactically! Acting a tad bit entitled when you actually feel undeserving might actually help you. Just don’t go around treating people like shit!
Believe in yourself
I might sound like a bit of a broken record saying this again and again in post, but you need to believe in yourself. Be confident in your abilities and trust that you’re going to be able to make this work. Even if you feel under qualified or that people are being too trusting of you, you need to be confident. Know that you’re going to succeed, that you are good enough for this, and you will succeed!
Fake it till you make it
If all else fails, fake it till you make it. Pretend you know exactly what you’re doing and say yes to the tasks in front of you. Always say yes first, then figured out how to actually make it work. If other people think you’re capable of these opportunities then you do have it in you to succeed, you just need to realise it. So fake it. Blag your way through it if need be, just get it done.
Just don’t go faking tax returns or anything idiotic…that will require actual help.
I really hope this post has helped to change your outlook on impostor syndrome, and given you some tips on how to deal with it. If you found the post helpful or need any further tips then feel free to leave a comment!